Educate counter

Although not an easy task to educate counter within a society that promises happiness through material source media and unattainable beauty stereotypes, is not a mission impossible.

The most convenient and easy it is to get carried away by the current fashion in education of children, since there is no resistance from anyone. But doing so can produce a loose and baseless training firm.

There are many parents who want to paddle in the opposite direction of the current, though more difficult, but with better results.

To form into being, should teach children and teenagers to stand up for what they are and not what they have. This must be repeated repeatedly let it clear that the material is added, it is not part of its essence.

It is natural to children and even teenagers, to be compared with their peers and make display of material goods or physical beauty they possess the other, which can generate in them a feeling of disrespect and inferiority. When this occurs, one must intervene immediately, parents should work to strengthen self-esteem and other values that teach the children that their worth as a person is not comparable with any other human being.

Parents, the best psychologists

It’s sad, regrettable and also worrying to see children and youth with very complex problems such as anorexia and bulimia, suicide attempts, unwanted pregnancies, harassment and/or school dropouts, among many others, which remain in the background, a lack of values that were not administered at the time, as well as a lack of family support.

The family is the first and sole responsibility for the education of children is the teacher par excellence and it should start teaching values and the formation of integrated beings. There is no doubt that a family is the best antidote against these “evils.”

Humility is the attitude derived from knowledge of limitations and that is to act without pride. This value takes the person to know and accept the reality of his life, never underestimated or believe than others. It’s the truth about you.

Humility does not mean “lazy”, lack of character or weakness, because you cannot call it a virtue denoting purity of soul and peace of mind “, nor the arrogance is a sign of strength.

Then I remembered the words of St. Thomas: “Pride is the inordinate love of one’s own excellence.” Pride blinds the man, unable to accept it or see its flaws and for that reason, cannot correct them. The humble man on the other hand, when it detects a twisted branch, you can straighten it, even if it hurts.

The benefits of humility

Covadonga O’Shea, in his book “In Search of values”, makes an interesting analysis in its chapter on humility. The author based on his experience, knowledge and learning from others says that humility provides a state of alert and admiration for the work of others. Similarly, states: “Anyone who has a humble attitude in daily life is always open to advice, not because our intelligence, but because we have much of others. Another positive result of someone trying to be humble is that this virtue will not let us believe that we have reached the summit in any way, nor blind us to the point of not seeing how much we have to go forward and lead us have others. “

So, humility is a way to happiness, because it lives in harmony with others, is valued at himself in the same way that assess those around you, you experience serenity, tranquility and develops the ability to support mistakes, facilitates forgiveness, makes the criticism becomes a possibility of growth, and finally, removes the external pressure and fear to appear as a perfect being, which is not possible under any view.

Humility in action

Humility goes beyond words. Living with humility to recognize their mistakes and also to communicate who was offended. A clear example is when parents are wrong in any act with the children, which is valid and necessary to apologize, which is far from a decline of authority. This gesture of humility, in addition to the personal growth it represents, will teach children that although human beings make mistakes, have the right to correct errors, thus achieving overcome difficulties without affecting the natural course of life.

Also is humble when in the role of leaders (within social groups, work, etc…) Learning from others and is recognized in the other his worth as a human. Also recognize their strengths, but not crushing exalts the other.

Keys to encourage humility

The book “Little Guide to Human Values,” presents the following keys do not fall into behaviors that denote a lack of humility or modesty

* Be aware that you have virtues, but also defects, and to acknowledge without detracting from it.
* Differentiate constructive criticism of an unprovoked attack and not be intimidated by baseless accusations.
* Knowing what our rightful place within the family, society, etc., And try to fulfill our mission as well as possible without encroaching on other people.
* To try to improve and excel without being crushed by adversity.
* Always show our true face without masks or disguises.
* Be hard worker and persevering in our efforts to improve and grow.
* To love ourselves and those around us to forgive and forgive mistakes.
* Be sensitive and kind to others.
* Keep the simplicity and accessibility that can earn the respect and affection of those around us.

Children with dyslexia
The dyslexic child has great difficulty in reading and writing can be seen on:
- Read slow, laborious and fraught with errors.
- Poor spelling.
- Unions or incorrect separation of words.

Some of the problems are the automation of learning and memory (learning something and soon forget it.) Besides costing successfully carrying out the activities where it is necessary to apply various skills (e.g. an essay in which he has to pay attention to spelling, punctuation, organization of ideas …).

Dyslexia is not expressed in the same way or with the same intensity in each child. Therefore, the recovery will be determined by the characteristics of each person and family and school environment to which it belongs. What is clear is that the basis of a good recovery is early detection, before the child experience the failure.

The child with dyslexia can learn to read, but will do differently, with a different method and a special treatment, giving strategies and techniques to cope with their difficulties in reading and writing, teaching different skills to help you understand and memorize the texts. It is important that parents who have a child with dyslexia are placed in the hands of a professional who can guide them in the best way to help your child.

A child with learning problems often has a normal level of intelligence, visual and auditory acuity. It’s a boy who strives to follow instructions, concentrate and behave well at home and at school. Your challenge is to capture process and master the tasks and information, and then develop them later. The child with this problem simply can not do that others with the same level of intelligence can achieve.

The child with specific learning problems has unusual patterns of perceiving things in the external environment. His neurological patterns are different from other children their same age. However they have in common some type of failure in school or community.

How to detect learning problems in children
It’s not difficult to detect when a child is having trouble processing the information and training they receive. Parents should be alert and aware of the most common signals that indicate the presence of a learning problem, when the child:

• Has difficulty understanding and following tasks and instructions.
• Has difficulty remembering what someone just said.
• Do not mastered basic reading skills, spelling, writing and / or math, therefore failing in school work.
• Has difficulty of distinguishing between right and left, to identify words, etc. Their tendency is to write letters, words or numbers backwards.
• It lacks coordination in walking, sports or performs simple activities, such as hold a pencil or tying a shoelace.
• Provides easy to lose or misplace your school supplies such as books and other items.
• Has difficulty understanding the concept of time, confusing the “yesterday”, with “Today” and / or “tomorrow.”
• It is easily irritated or excited

Characteristics of learning problems
Children with learning disabilities often have, according to the list obtained from “When Learning is a Problem / LDA (Learning Disabilities Association of America)”, characteristics and / or deficiencies:

Reading (view)
The child very close to the book says words aloud; points, substituted, omitted, and invests the words Sees double, jump and read the same line twice, does not read fluently, has little understanding oral reading; omitted consonants final oral reading, blinking in excess, becomes cross-eyed when reading, tends to rub their eyes and complain that itch, presents problems of visual impairment, poor spelling, among others.

Writing
The boy spent and vary the height of the letters leaves no space between written words and not above the lines; Take the pencil awkwardly and does not define whether it is right or left handed, move and place the paper the wrong way, is write with finger, is poorly organized thinking and poor posture, etc.

Auditory and verbal
The child is apathetic, cold, allergy and asthma often, mispronounced words, breathe through your mouth complains of ear problems, feels dizzy goes blank when he speaks, speaks loudly, depends other visually and closely observes the teacher, can not follow more than one instruction at a time, puts the TV and radio with high volume, etc.

Mathematics
The student spends the numbers, has trouble knowing the time, poor understanding and memory of those numbers, does not answer math, etc.

The interest in reading can be suggested to the child in a simple, spontaneous and lasting. The child who begins to have contact with books from an early, even before learning to read, according to some research, you will be better prepared to succeed in school and in life in a general way.

The act of reading or just go by the book will make children more intelligent, imaginative and creative. And if that’s what you want for your child, do not waste time. Start today to build that so enriching daily habit for him and for all. Start making your home a great library.

Promote reading in children
1 – To begin; it is necessary that your child see you, whenever possible, with a book in his hand. Children feel more interest in reading a book if they see that this habit is present in the environment. Think that children love to copy. That is their way of learning. If they find that they like to read books that deal with care and respect, they probably will too.

2 – You must be convinced that reading should be used as another form of entertainment and not as an obligation. The books should be introduced to everyday child alone when he is learning to read or just when he enters the school. Contact with the books should start well before. I would say that before even starting to crawl.

3 – When the baby gets to sit firmly on the floor or crib, offer books to handle. There is small market and curious books made of cloth and even plastic material suitable for the game to bath time. There are also small dictionaries for your baby to become familiar with the words, letters, gradually linking them to the image. The secret to this age, is to make the baby look at the book as a toy, with which you can learn, become more, discover, create fantasies, and hear many interesting stories and fascinating. At first, try to give preference to picture books with few words, then your child to touch, caress, smell, and have any contact with it. There are books that included sounds and bits of wool and other materials for babies also enjoy the touch.

4 – When you’re a little older, it is best read aloud, always following the stories of the book. Give special importance to the time spent to take their children in their arms and share with them the joy of reading a story, away from the distractions of television. Start with traditional tales, classical, but mainly choose books that appeal to everyone. If a book is boring, forget it and find another that is interesting.

5 – When your child is already at an age when it gets to be quieter in enclosed places, bring her to visit a library. The child becomes familiar with the books, learn to handle them and so will build a friendship, a bond with the reading. You will feel closer to the place and want to return many times to choose the book you want.

6 – Another way to stimulate the child’s interest in books is to make a book at a premium. Every time you have to reward your child for something important, give her a book on his favorite subject.
7 – When your child is already enjoying the books make it part of reading. After reading the story ask him to tell what happened to a character, or even do with your child guess what will happen at the end. Take the opportunity to make comments on the good and bad situations, and make comparisons of a piece of history with their experiences, such as “what would you do instead?”, “What happened to us the same one day?”

8 – So you feel your child is already interested in the stories, which is involved with the plot, is identified with the characters, began to participate and imagine different endings, laughing and living varied sensations, emotions, etc., be sure to surprise with new stories. Give continuity to this practice always supplying your house with books and magazines as well.

1. Enter the reading at any time of day, such as before sleeping. Reading a book becomes a daily habit and a necessity. Children who read at least half an hour a day are likely to be potential readers.
2. Make the books that are available to children, so they can browse whenever you want, before they can read.
3. To arouse the interest of your baby for books and reading, practice reading and let your children see you read. Children learn by copying.
4. Read books aloud to your children. It begins when they do not even know walk. The reading habit should be built as soon as possible. Children learn to read better if heard before any reading.
5. When children are very young, they like to repeat and repeat, always the same book. Do not deny them the replay. Always read the book they choose, but for you is boring. The repetition will help them acquire memory and the notion of sequence.
6. Establish a place, a corner for reading, such as in bed, sofa, chair, table … no matter where. The important thing is that the child, being in a certain place reminds of a book. That does not mean you can not move whenever you please. You can enjoy reading anywhere, even in the bathroom.
7. Visit the library with your child at least once a week. You’ll find activities related to books, reading, exhibitions, and a suitably quiet environment, suitable for the pleasure of reading and knowing. Ask the membership card in the library, so that he can borrow the books that interest you.
8. Go with your children to bookstores just as fall within other stores.
9. Give books to your child’s playmates. So he will receive the book as an object of pleasure just as toys.

Aggression is a disorder that, in excess, and if not treated in childhood, probably cause problems in the future and how school failure, lack of socialization, adaptation difficulties, etc.

What we can understand about aggression in children?
When it comes to aggression, there is talk of doing harm, physical or psychological harm to another person. It is Manifested a deliberate action by kicking, scratching, screaming, shoving, swearing, biting, etc. to another person.

This behavior is relatively common and often occurs when the child turns one year. When the baby is born, brings love and aggressive impulses, with time and with the care of parents, begin to build emotional ties and develop relationships. This is a very important phase. His personality will be built on their knowledge of the world around them. For that, the baby needs to feel protected and cared for in their home environment.

The influence of family
The family is one of the most important elements of cultural factors within the child. The family is everything to him. The family is the model of attitude, discipline, conduct and behavior. It is one of the factors that influence the emission of aggressive behavior. It is shown that the type of discipline that applies to the child a family will be responsible for their aggressive behavior or not. A very demanding father, for example, and you have hostile, and that is always disapproving and punishing or threatening to assault his son constantly, is promoting aggression in children. Another factor leading to child aggression is when the relationship between their parents is tense and troubled. Within the cultural factors influence both the type of neighborhood where you live as expressions that encourage aggression such as “does not be a coward.”

Hormone-organic factors, brain mechanisms, states of malnutrition, health problems, etc., also influence aggressive behavior. And within the social factor, the child has no verbal strategies to cope with difficult situations, will be easily led to

According to some researchers, the fears come and go, sometimes without realizing it and changed to the extent that the child grows older. Children begin to be afraid of strange people, strange objects, loud noises, darkness, and then begin to be afraid of death, monsters, thieves, etc. Most of these fears are induced by the external environment such as movies, stories, stories of the friends, and others are based on bad experiences at home or outside it, and indeed can serve as a warning to parents to identify some situations of abuse or neglect their child.

One of the most common fears in young children is the painful separation from parents, fear of abandonment. When his mother left him in a daycare or with someone else and leaves the infant or child does not know how much you should expect to see her again. And there appears the fear of permanent loss because the child does not have the ability to measure time. But as the child matures with more depth will know the reality, and overcome their fears. And you can not eliminate all their fears because they also allow understanding the world and feeling more confident in their ability to fight fear.

Learn to love nature
To ensure that children have a love of nature is the best way to enrich their experiences, plan activities in order to teach them to love the environment, to facilitate the child’s contact with the countryside, mountains, rivers, and all that encompasses nature, and give them the opportunity to observe, question, and express their ideas on the subject.

The child may learn to love nature:
- Having contact with it whenever possible
- In the countryside tours
- In some farm tours
- Learning to plant a tree
- Learning to make a garden
- Finding and drawing insects, their shapes, colors
- Caring for a pet
- Respecting animals, rivers, plants and flowers
- Visiting a botanical garden
- No throwing garbage on the street, in the field or in the rivers and sea
- Saving water and electricity
- Following the example, interest and care for their parents to topic

The pattern and stages of children
The drawing is almost always the first great work of children. It represents their first great treasure expressive because, through the drawings the children say a lot about themselves. It may be that this is the reason why many parents are increasingly interested in the pictures that make your children. The drawing can be converted, in some cases, the thermometer of the child’s mood, and that translates what the child feels, thinks, wants, or what he is concerned, makes him happy or sad.

Every child is a world and it shows in his drawings. If you ask a group of children to draw a house in the country, all the pictures come out different. They can look at something, but never be equal. Besides that, consider that the drawings are also some steps may sound as:

- The doodle stage – from 3 to 6 years
- Outline stage – from 6 to 9 years of age
- The intermediate stage – from 9 to 12 years of age
- The faithful reproduction stage – from 12 to 14 years old
- The stage of spatial representation – from 14 years of age.

Psychomotor
The drawing is spontaneous activity and as such must be respected and considered as the great work of children. If the child wants to draw, always encourage him to do so. Ideally, all children may have, from an early age, some contact with the pencil and paper. Begin with scribbles, and then be drawing most recognizable forms. The more children draw, draw more and more benefits will be felt in their development. The drawing makes it easier and develop the child in:

1 – fine motor skills
2 – writing and reading,
3 – self-confidence
4 – expression of emotions, feelings and sensations
5 – communication with others and with himself
6 – Creativity
7 – their formative
8 – psychological maturity