What Do’s and Don’ts in Marriage
There are some basic attributes that can help strengthen or weaken the relationship. As simple as they are often left to one side with contempt. But give him some attention and take note of how important they can be each of these points.
What to do:
Praying together
A couple that prays together is connected in a very deep level. Are united in their beliefs, goals and common values, gained through their relationship and therefore are linked emotionally and spiritually.
Show affection
Do not be afraid to kiss your spouse in front of their children or to forget that holding hands can be enjoyable and magical. Affection can break the walls that have been built between them.
Playing and laughing
The moments of joy is the couple to feel comfortable and happy to be with the person chosen. In addition to sharing the burdens of ordinary life, do not forget to enjoy each other and make you feel good.
Encourage each other
Being married does not mean you or your spouse does not need encouragement. We all do. Hearing that someone believes in you or is encouraging something he cares about is important to you, and makes all the difference in the world of his feelings about himself and others. Your partner, same thing happens …
Investing time in your relationship
The toughest obstacle for parents – and for many professionals – is to find time alone with the other. Be sure to get it. Be a quiet hour in his room before bed or a quote out there to find what works best and implement it, to nourish the relationship with time and attention. The plant is not irrigated, dies of starvation.
Don’ts :
Refusing to forgive
We teach our children to forgive, and we also must do so!
Some wounds take longer to close than others, but the bitterness and resentment away only love, and much more difficult re channeling of the couple who have already suffered a break.
Mocking the other
Sarcasm is the biggest disease in our homes, and can be very painful. The mocking and sarcastic comments never build a home or a marriage. Avoid this habit and try to address the damaging more considered discussion. The other is not an enemy but someone we love and with whom we disagree at some point. Do not miss this point of view.
Compare your spouse
Your husband may not be like your friend, or vice versa, in some way that you admire, but you is not someone else. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Comparisons only increase weaknesses rather than building strengths, become unsafe because who is compared. And moreover, is never fair to anyone. We stop doing things that harm the self esteem and confidence of those we love.
Criticize
Everyone makes mistakes. The patience with the mistakes of others, and indulgence, will greatly facilitate the relationship, and can achieve much more than criticism. Criticism is often too much to devalue “wrong” and break the trust between them.
Blaming
Many fall into this. The blame never solves anything, just divide the couple. It applies to this as well as to criticism and ridicule. They are all unhealthy ways to move forward on the other, as if it were an enemy or a contender who must crush. It is clear that these “methods” do not help anything to improve a relationship.
Yelling and / or fight very hard
Disagree or argue is part of any marriage relationship. But when the trend started screaming, slamming doors, etc, it can become a habit that ends up destroying the communication. Learn to be constructive / ay practical job when they disagree, or take a while until your emotions calm down a bit.
