Gratitude opens the eyes, heart and conscience, because of how insignificant something may seem, this virtue it enlarges and fills it with joy. Who does not appreciate what it is, what you get and what it lives bitter longing for what has not been achieved. Emphasize the value of gratitude in the education of children, provides a capacity to enjoy and wonder at the wonders of life as paramount in humans.

The following definition largely collects what she means: “Gratitude is the virtue that makes us aware of the gifts we receive each day, appreciate the generosity of giving it to us and move our wills to match these gifts, use, development and put at the service of others.”

Thus, the experience of that value, promote other provisions that become wonderful pieces for the construction of maturity: the value of hard work, humility, reciprocity, respect, generosity, industriousness, among others.

Gratitude is learned in the family

The family which is responsible for planting the seed of gratitude from the earliest ages of the children and continues the long process of growth.

Parents have proposed that their children live on thanks as usual attitude, both in dealing with others and with life itself and who made it possible. Similarly, it is important to show thanks for the food they receive, the opportunity to study, to have a family, to share with others, to learn … in short, so many things that at times we become invisible to the eye and we assume that we belong.

In this way the children create awareness that the world is not surrendered to their feet in hopes that they handed down its request, but the things that deserve to get value and appreciation. “The lack of gratitude allows and produces feelings of unhappiness at what they do not have or are, and that, as we deserve. And to experience the gratitude of his life will eliminate this potential source of sadness and unhappiness.”

How to promote the appreciation in house

Here are some ideas that promote the virtue of gratitude in the home. Do not forget that apply to all members of the family, not just the kids, for the example of parents is a key element in the learning of values.

• Look at the good things that happen, as well as the strengths of individuals.
• To realize the needs of other people go through and make their own gifts to your service.
• Learn to enjoy things and situations in our lives, mostly very simple.
• Assess the efforts and sacrifices made by others to give us what we need.
• Do not require other things, but thank what is offered.
• Giving thanks always accompanied by a smile, even for seemingly small things and unimportant.
• Take care of the things we have been given away, keep them in order, appropriate use of these and share them with those who need them.
• Return a custom, offering details of brothers, fathers and sons.
• At night, thanks for the gifts received throughout the day and the next morning, thanks for the new day and offer the best way to live.
• Never complain or regret what you do not have.
• Enjoying activities that take place in family.

Finally, “Gratitude to parents, love is a basic duty. Gratitude to God is a tribute that starts from the bottom of the heart. Gratitude to others is a sign of eyes open and humble hearts. The world needs a good dose of gratitude toward others and a little less, of claims. We must ask what we need and it is up, but without forgetting that you also have to thank, what we get. “

When you think about the economic future of the family, immediately come to mind the potential monetary certify the welfare and progress of it. Despite having the best wishes and take a fight to achieve it, there is the possibility that circumstances change adversely, thereby harming the academic training of children. That is why, to take preventive action when conditions permit, minimize risks and will be a wise decision that will never be cause for repentance.

Strangely, the best time to save for this purpose is when the children are very young, as well take on the characteristics of a long-term savings, which is a minimum amounts that make it much easier.

Therefore, for the admission of children to college is not a torment in relation to its monetary cost, think in some previous strategies that provide economic support after, some options to assess:

Education insurance

Several companies in the finance and insurance sector, offer an excellent alternative for these cases, such as investment system to pre-pay for higher education. It works as an investment plan for higher education, which guarantees regardless of the cost of tuition in the future, full payment of the studies of the beneficiary. The recommendation is to be acquired from the birth of the child, because the beneficiary’s age directly influences the cost of the plans (the older, higher fees). Purchase such insurance, the parents removed to the tremendous uncertainty about the costs that will have a good education in the future.

Programmed savings

Spouses can integrate into your monthly budget a certain amount to start collecting the money will settle the study of children. Each one depending on your income and expenses, establish a fixed sum which must be met in full.

A savings account from small

To avoid spending the money to unforeseen situations, it is suggested to open a savings account on behalf of the boys and there monthly deposit a certain sum. Most banks offer this service and also offer ways of profitability. This plan has become a sort of modernized piggy bank where the funds are collected safely, so that tomorrow we can see all children as a professional.

Scholarships or financial aid

Governments and various educational institutions seek to promote the study of new generations. So managed grants or aid given enough time, will be a great help for parents.

Teach them to save

While parents are primarily responsible for family finances, children can make their “two cents”. Once you begin to receive their allowance, can be taught to use part of this savings, making it clear their aim is to ensure their academic studies when they are older.

The presence of grandparents is a comfort and a relief for many families. The changes that cause the baby’s birth are less affected than fathers, and their obligations are in a secondary plan, dependent on the “control” of the baby’s parents, and available to share with care, affection, and time with their baby-laws.

Value of grandparents with grandchildren
Grandparents can provide practical assistance, support, and a string of tips for caring for the baby. The meeting of the grandparents with their grandchildren is always very enriching for both sides. Many children love to be with their grandparents for several different reasons. Some of them have the reason because the side of the grandparents is there so many orders or obligations. Others because they do different things with them, like making cookies together, eating sweets, taking walks, going to the park and perform a multitude of activities which lead them to feel more free. Some grandparents see their grandchildren as a friend, a kind of guide as fun, loving, cuddly and enjoy being with them. But, of course, everything depends on the lifestyle of their grandparents. There are also those who just get older and continue to treat the little ones in a very authoritarian and too demanding.

But, in general, feel much pleasure grandparents with their grandchildren. Being with them is also a way to reinvent him. You have more family involvement, and feel younger and updated. You learn a lot with children.

Value of grandparents with their grandchildren’s parents
You can not always say that the relationship of grandparents with their grandchildren’s parents as good as possible. Unfortunately, there may be disputes as to the type of education that is applied to the child. Generations are distinct and different criteria are also educational. The younger ones can not change the reasoning of the older children. Grandparents are not more to educate. You have educated good or bad, to their children. Grandparents are there to give love, give a helping hand from time to time, and have a good time with their grandchildren. If grandparents will be with the grandchildren, the ideal is that there is an agreement between the parties for the good of the child and everyone. For that, it is necessary that the parents and grandparents there is a relationship quiet, focused and true, free of jealousy, in which there reigns respect to the needs and habits of the other.

In any case, if the children living in unsuitable situations, for example, constant fights, arguments, ending abuse, alcoholism or drug problems, and that the example of their father or mother is not the most appropriate be more beneficial to them than their parents separate. This proved that the children are much more in situations where parents are unhappy when they decide to live together than apart. Children want to feel that their parents are happy. It is important to consider that by taking the decision to separate is analyzed first the relationship with the children, they may undergo changes, the reasons must be presented to the children, and especially that its decision does not affect or compromise the basic needs of children. The child will continue to need love, care, attention, support, understanding, etc.

Separated parents and children
Although separated, the couple is no longer a marriage partner but never cease to be a couple of parents for their children. Remember that children have rights and basic needs like food, shelter, care regarding health, education, clothing, in short, attention of all kinds. Children will only feel safe if there is a climate of trust, respect, and affection with their parents. Whereas these rights, parents should offer an education based on the values of optimism, responsibility and family, providing their children with a civilized, inclusive social and observing the behavior of their children and to stand by their side in all times when you need it and not just during set visits. All of that apart from the financial obligations for the maintenance of all basic needs of children.

2. Dogs are social animals; keep it in a place where people have contact with. Always keep in mind that a dog needs lots of attention, so you must carefully consider devoting to a dog before adopting it. The essential thing is to engage the dog (from puppyhood) as much as possible in one’s daily activities, which will make it a pet well socialized and happy.

3. Large dogs need a fenced yard to move and run. This court so we must keep clean and cut grass, to combat any disease or parasites and flies have fewer problems with ticks. It is important to see what types of animals (frogs or others) may find our dogs in the yard, and that can cause damage to your pet.

4. You walk your dog for 15-20 minutes, ideally after each meal. If you can, try it out once in the morning and afternoon, but always in a fixed schedule. The more time you take a walk, the better!

5. Bathe and brush your dog regularly. You must be careful not to get water in the ears or eyes and then apply either the shampoo, rinse it until no more foam and shampoo residues that could dry out your skin. Brush your dog often helps keep your hair clean, free of parasites and maintain hygiene in the home. There are many different brushes depending on the type of hair from each dog.

6. Make sure you always have a plate full of fresh drinking water. We live in a country where very warm and the summers are very strong, it is estimated that this coming summer will be much stronger so you have to change from time to time the water of your dog so he can refresh properly and does not suffer consequences of excessive heat (especially if your dog is long hair or dark color). You can also head a little soaking in the day or play with the hose and your dog!

7. When you are given the dog to the vet you should make him a revision of its general condition, a schedule of vaccines. Remember that you should ask the person you give the dog if you already have certain vaccinations before. With these measure you to have a dog much healthier and happy!

8. You have to sterilize your dog or operating job to not play in an irresponsible manner, as many dogs, both adults and puppies are abandoned for this reason or even die. Sterilization is a simple procedure is not traumatic for your pet. It will save many tantrums and general expenses in the long run.

9. Training and education of your dog. Many dogs are aggressive because their owners have been with them. It is important that you treat your pet with affection and will put limits on what is allowed and what is not allowed to do. Train him to do his business at a certain time and in one place, to stop barking when you say it, etc. A good vet can give you tips on how to accomplish this. You must educate your dog to be a good pet.

10. Know your dog. To get a better relationship with your dog must know what you like, do not you like, what scares it and what makes them feel threatened. A dog is a great companion, but you must understand what it feels like to be able to train better and have a better company.

In this age are experiencing first love, the love we bewitch our memories, and we feel that we “love” not once but many times. This feeling is wonderful, an adult continue to experience, and is one of the most sublime states that human beings can live.

But falling in love is an experience with living in a conscious way, which is extremely difficult when you have 13 or 14 years. It is contradictory to say that falling in love (which claims to emotions) must be lived in a deliberate, but people need to distinguish the effects of a passing illusion and a true love.

Immature Love

Now we see certain features of immature love. First, is self-centered, seeking profit and self-satisfaction? Two people in love, they want to spend all time together, they need constant calls and do not see life without her “better half”, and although this may seem very romantic, which masks the need for company, reveals the desire that beings have an individual human being significant and indispensable in the lives of others.

Also, the infatuation comprises a fleeting illusion because it is based solely on emotions, and they are dynamic, changing according to circumstances and changed over time. For this reason, it becomes almost impossible to maintain the initial intensity throughout the relationship.

As explained so far, falling in love seems to be a state not very positive … the opposite! Being in love is one of the best experiences that human beings can live, the problem lies in confusing illusion with love and hasty decisions, and often inadequate.

Sexual intercourse

One decision more common among teenagers who believe they found the “love of his life” is to initiate sexual intercourse. Every day young men and women begin their sexual practices to younger age, and many do so for fear of losing the beloved. However, the inner life is an extension of true love, and this immature love is very different from that experienced in the crush.

From this stems the importance of the teenagers understand that their sexual life should be postponed until marriage, then this responsibility when you’re not ready for it, leads to unpleasant consequences for those involved. Unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, abortions and their aftermath are on the agenda.

Another decision is accelerated marriage. Some young lovers believe they have found the perfect person; the one with whom they will never have discussions or conflicts, they never make you feel bad and who share all aspects of his life under the veil of fantasy marriage appears as the next step to follow.

However, a double bond should not be carried out only illusory and emotional foundations for, as already noted, the emotions are volatile and change according to circumstances. Young people who marry because they are “madly in love” usually end in divorce.

Everyday life, economic and family problems, discrepancies in terms of discipline and education of children, and many other conflicts will end with the idealized image of the couple will not be the perfect person, but it will look like human beings defects that is and probably this new image does not cause the greatest pleasure.

True Love

Now, if being in love is not enough to sustain a relationship what else is needed?

Some kids (and adults too) need to understand that what separates the winners relations unsuccessful, it is called true love. This kind of love, is characterized in that it is not self-centered, not hurt or injured, and perhaps most important tests of emotions.

Mature love is developed over time, with mutuality, in times of prosperity and times of calamity. It begins with falling in love, but over this “spell”, you start to love the essence of the person, not her physical beauty or popularity, they love their flaws and virtues, he is respected in times of conflict, you hear in the midst of oppression, in short, you will love when love seems impossible.

This is not to say that teens do not know and love what it is to teach them (and their parents) about the difference between love and illusion, for adolescents living in a full and satisfactory without having to repent for decisions taken in the light of a chimera.

It is as if we had said something like, ‘so I had a bad time with my strict parents, I missed so much as a child, I had a very complicated and distant father, and I do not want my children to go through the same thing. So I, as Mom and Dad, I will give everything I can because I want them to be happy. “

Thus was born a different generation of parents. This also supported by certain psychological currents posed the wrong way that parents should be friends with their children. This phrase so internalized in our society says and I want to make it clear from now, to parents should be warm and even be ‘cool’ with their children, what happens is you have to privilege the role of educator. I am a mom and my role is to educate my children, and that is often a stressful paste in which I have to set limits, make decisions for them that often they do not like to say that not many times a day and maintaining an educational consistency transferred my words, which is covered by the facts.

Much of the problems facing our children today, as poor motivation for the studies, low frustration tolerance, impatience, and this ‘can’ board, with a feeling of immense solitude, is because we are parents forget to be authoritative. We are the rulers of the house, like it or not, we choose what we eat or not eat, at least most of the time, we decide whether or not our children will see their grandparents, because if no, they are not going to do on its own will and, therefore, will grow without history or experience rating.

Loss of control

I get to see how parents have lost control over their children, and increasingly often say sentences like ‘I do not know what to do with my daughter,’ and when asked the age, I learn that two and a half years I do not know what they intend to do when the child is 15 years. It is also common to hear parents tell teachers: Tell her hair cut because I was not going to ignore. Or they say: How do force myself to do this or that if it wants?

The reason for this mode is due to a number of factors, including the most important are: the general tendency to avoid any conflict. So as not to see his long face our son we are able to do what he wants. We avoid conflicts throughout the day as us because we have many problems outside our homes to get inside of them and, therefore, transacted in the one thing that we should not do: the education of our children.

Another factor is of course a short time we spent with our children. I say supposedly because, in reality, if a father has an hour to watch the news, is actually a time to be with their children, what happens is that preferred to watch the news.

The issue of parenting, our children’s friends has many sides, some are sociological, such as those in some way explained before, but it also has to do with how sensitive we are the adults of today to the rejection of our children. We do not want to see their long faces, telling us that we are outdated, other than the parents of his classmates, who are ‘not cool’. In fact, parents want to be cool, appear as evolved and this makes us extremely ambiguous in the way we educate, we find it difficult to say no. We leave in forty explanations, we are the kings of the ‘it depends’, which put our children in a web of insecurities that prevent them from knowing what is right and wrong and everything seems possible.

The consequences of being parents, friends are many: the children have no respect different from his friends to educate, develop a bad tolerance to frustration because the parents do not tell them no, and if they do, easily changed with some manipulations.

The children become manipulative because they know they can do whatever they want; it’s all in how you ask. Finally, teens are lonely and insecure at first because it’s fun to have parents like that, but over time they begin to feel they need someone to guide them because if not, die of anxiety.

Children, in their healthy development, they need boundaries, discipline and conduct set by parents, mixed with affection: it is the formula for a good education. Tenderness and discipline seems to be the key. Moreover, it was important to be clear that the more clear is a father or mother, as to educate, more expressive and free to

In general, according to my experience in Chile, I come often to these dads friends who do not know how to get out of the mess that they put a little product of their short-term vision of ‘total and will grow’, ‘are children’ ‘I put a lot of color’, etc., and when they want to set limits when they are larger, too late.

There is another percentage of parents who, although I hate to say, it is ‘not there’ to educate their children, those who hire radio taxi weekend by ‘can’ of having to go looking. There are also those who are trying to be friends with their children and tell all that good. Why did not they will buy if they all have cell?
Parents who give permission for all children who smoke, who take them to ‘learn’, which will finance the piercing and strange clothes who ask. Parents who allow their children for fear of rejection, receiving friends at their parts, understanding that they need to ‘privacy’ and are not able to say that that’s what the living and not the beds.

These parents, friends do not place limits, but neither are a lot of love, not embrace it will be rejected, do not say ‘I love you’ for fear of ridicule and, therefore, are not consistent in the way of educating.

Of course there are those who are doing well, which set limits, that challenge when it comes to challenge, to meet the punishment and so good, that provide affection, touching, kissing, while adolescents reject them, and they understand that’s a pose that does not mean that do not need. Parents are falling to pieces of their children even when the door is closed, they say ‘I love you’, but equally clearly they are able to say no, even if it means having the ‘child’ or ‘girl’ with long face several days. Perhaps it is because they understand that education is a planting day, where the harvest is not immediately, and that, therefore, have to worry every day.

In different circumstances, some families are made up of father, mother and child (a), and this family structure requires extra effort from parents, which is to give the child the necessary tools to keep their status as “only” affects you their educational development, and later as adults.

It is also true that the only child can be more creative because it must find ways to entertain him also has good relationships with adults and may look older (psychologically) for their constant imitation and observation of the adults around him.

Being excellent virtues, the only son is also difficult some others, which is up to parents to provide these “gaps” to avoid becoming a selfish, capricious, vain and weak to establish relationships with their peers.

A family educator, said: “The most important thing to keep in mind the parents who decide to have one child, that child does not give much relevance in the home that may come to believe is unique in the world . Even if he or she can be very special for your dad and mom, is as special as the other children for the rest of the parents. And it will be hard to accept if it is convinced that the only being exceptional in the world and those around you who must live bent to his will. “

As always, it is valid to clarify that not all only children behave the same way, because if the parents do a good job, they will not have to contend with this inconvenience.

The four main challenges facing parents of only children are:

* Strengthen the generosity.

Having no siblings, the child can make it difficult to share. It can also be somewhat intolerant on the issue of coexistence not be obliged to give in to the spaces, material things, etc. A good strategy to neutralize this potential weakness is to invite you to give away toys they no longer use but are in good shape, spend time with other children and to set limits and rules to control their appetites.

In some cases it works that boys take charge of a pet, because the fact of ensuring their care, food, cleanliness … take them to strive, to make them more accountable, and generous with their time.                                                        

* Develop social skills.

It is quite natural in the child who has no brothers, who feel some loneliness. Even when surrounded by much love from their parents, grandparents and other family, every child needs to have friends their own age. Again, we must ensure open spaces for leisure activities with other children, not just in their school or preschool, but also outside of these school settings. This should start from social skills that are small and cash them a little introduction, other groups, so that when you are older is not an impediment.

It is likely that the parent-child relationship is more rooted attachment to normal and those momentary separations (such as travel, admission to college, etc…) It can be somewhat difficult. This will require setting times of separation, such that the child goes to sleep at a friend’s house, sharing with the cousins for a weekend, etc.

* Beware of exclusive parental attention.

It is understandable that parents are very apprehensive, more than it should-with his only son, but this much attention makes them great harm to both. This risk should be avoided because it usually excess is accompanied by over-attention, which causes considerable personal training process.

The only child has parents all to himself, does not have to share with anyone else and so it has your full attention. When there is no restraint on the part of parents, it is likely that the child was moody and look again is the center of attention at all costs, which will bring enough trouble.

So  when the child has difficulty with other children either in school or in other contexts, parents should support but not blindly defend the point of preventing suffering, as he must learn to deal with these situations are quite common in the rest of his life.                                                                                                                     

* Boost safety, self-esteem and independence.

For the same reason explained in the previous section, these boys are too dependent on their parents. Care should be taken that will go to the normal rhythm of their peers and begin developing physical and intellectual skills appropriate to their age. So parents should object to do things they are able to do, like let alone eat, dress, do their homework, prepare clothes and all the tasks of daily living.

Internet is full of easy craft ideas for children. Blogger will filter a lot of chaos for you as they are hand selected and tested many of these craft ideas. Martha Stewart has a great website full of kids’ craft ideas. Many crafts are based around seasonal themes. Holidays, especially, is a season of craft. During the days free from school, children can take part in the craft at the door or even out in the snow. The key basis for all kinds of creative craft projects. Little was walking in a very long way.

There are many seasonal and holiday-themed crafts. For example, during Christmas, Santa, snowman, ornaments, and decorated trees are very popular. During Halloween, children can make their own accessories for costumes, or the costume itself. Easter is a great kid winter craft simple craft such as painting eggs and basket weaving will surely bring joy and creativity out of every child. There are crafts for every season and every day of the year. Only the imagination and creativity can easily limit the types of crafts children can participate in.

Common materials for children including crafts easy to finger paint, yarn, glue, felt, all types of paper, and just about everything else, including garbage and trash. Age of the child must determine the scope of crafters craft projects. Always, safety should be a top priority of every craft project and adults must be present to supervise. Children easily craft usually consists of a few simple steps, which are designed for toddlers or children to follow. With creativity, a child can often add their own personal touch or idea to not only create a plane, but use it as well.

So, before you go out to buy your child a toy or video game, you should consider the child easy crafts. Old and / or grandparents can also participate in or supervise the child crafts. Not only will you save money, your child will be very useful in various ways.

Discuss it that easy to understand
Do not avoid talking about death with your children, and you should not explain it in such a way that will instill fear of death. Most of the children, however, never saw a real corpse or has a long discussion with their parents about what, if any, which happens after we die.

Strategies for discussing death
Explaining the idea of death is explained as something different from the physical your children will be able to see, taste or touch. Try and explain everything from the simplest level you can. If you want, you can use this as an appropriate time to discuss another major talking you need to have with yourchildren.

Important tips to help children through the loss
- The children sometimes ask when they will be able to see their loved ones again
- No matter how small children make sure your pet to provide a proper burial
- Often times, the children will express themselves through actions than words
- Do not ever deceive children by telling them who died will return
- Encourage children to share feelings

The most important is important that you continue to talk with your child. Keep the lines of communication open by asking them how they feel. Sometimes children will have nightmares about death or losing someone and it’s important to talk through these dreams. Some kids try to hide his confusion and sadness, and it is important to look beyond the surface and make them to open up to you. Are children just because they do not mean that they do not feel things deeply. If a child continues to feel their pain and confusion onto the bottle, it will come back to haunt them in later years.

Explain to the children at an early age
Children should be given enough time to think about the concepts of life and death in their minds. Do not wait until their pet to die in order to explain the subject of Death and dying for your kids. Although death is a certainty of life, your children should not be afraid or confused because of it.