Teenage Dating
In adolescence, the world opens up differently for the young people and many become highly attractive aspects: freedom, autonomy, the opposite sex, love …
In this age are experiencing first love, the love we bewitch our memories, and we feel that we “love” not once but many times. This feeling is wonderful, an adult continue to experience, and is one of the most sublime states that human beings can live.
But falling in love is an experience with living in a conscious way, which is extremely difficult when you have 13 or 14 years. It is contradictory to say that falling in love (which claims to emotions) must be lived in a deliberate, but people need to distinguish the effects of a passing illusion and a true love.
Immature Love
Now we see certain features of immature love. First, is self-centered, seeking profit and self-satisfaction? Two people in love, they want to spend all time together, they need constant calls and do not see life without her “better half”, and although this may seem very romantic, which masks the need for company, reveals the desire that beings have an individual human being significant and indispensable in the lives of others.
Also, the infatuation comprises a fleeting illusion because it is based solely on emotions, and they are dynamic, changing according to circumstances and changed over time. For this reason, it becomes almost impossible to maintain the initial intensity throughout the relationship.
As explained so far, falling in love seems to be a state not very positive … the opposite! Being in love is one of the best experiences that human beings can live, the problem lies in confusing illusion with love and hasty decisions, and often inadequate.
Sexual intercourse
One decision more common among teenagers who believe they found the “love of his life” is to initiate sexual intercourse. Every day young men and women begin their sexual practices to younger age, and many do so for fear of losing the beloved. However, the inner life is an extension of true love, and this immature love is very different from that experienced in the crush.
From this stems the importance of the teenagers understand that their sexual life should be postponed until marriage, then this responsibility when you’re not ready for it, leads to unpleasant consequences for those involved. Unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, abortions and their aftermath are on the agenda.
Another decision is accelerated marriage. Some young lovers believe they have found the perfect person; the one with whom they will never have discussions or conflicts, they never make you feel bad and who share all aspects of his life under the veil of fantasy marriage appears as the next step to follow.
However, a double bond should not be carried out only illusory and emotional foundations for, as already noted, the emotions are volatile and change according to circumstances. Young people who marry because they are “madly in love” usually end in divorce.
Everyday life, economic and family problems, discrepancies in terms of discipline and education of children, and many other conflicts will end with the idealized image of the couple will not be the perfect person, but it will look like human beings defects that is and probably this new image does not cause the greatest pleasure.
True Love
Now, if being in love is not enough to sustain a relationship what else is needed?
Some kids (and adults too) need to understand that what separates the winners relations unsuccessful, it is called true love. This kind of love, is characterized in that it is not self-centered, not hurt or injured, and perhaps most important tests of emotions.
Mature love is developed over time, with mutuality, in times of prosperity and times of calamity. It begins with falling in love, but over this “spell”, you start to love the essence of the person, not her physical beauty or popularity, they love their flaws and virtues, he is respected in times of conflict, you hear in the midst of oppression, in short, you will love when love seems impossible.
This is not to say that teens do not know and love what it is to teach them (and their parents) about the difference between love and illusion, for adolescents living in a full and satisfactory without having to repent for decisions taken in the light of a chimera.
